WHEN RMD HIMSELF GETS YOU MOTIVATED... " A MESSAGE WRITTEN FOR THE MALE GENDER"

Hello dear friends and inspiring readers of Kiara Nuellz's inspirational blog.

Happy Sunday to you all and I do hope you are indeed having the best of it.

Earlier today I was just going through the internet and then I came across a message from RMD, Richard Mofe Damijo who happens to be a well known Nollywood actor and politician.

Now, in his message, I must say he was indeed inspiring the youth most especially the male "gender." 

So, I decided to share his heartwarming message for you all to read and hope to get you inspired because I believe we sure do learn everyday.
So here below is his message which he shared on his gram page written to give you insight. 
He wrote, ' TAG A SON… Dear Son, I’m writing to you today because there is no day “internationally” set aside for the “boy child”, so, tired of looking on in horror as you constantly shock and embarrass me, this is from daddy to you.

I’m shocked at how many of you carry yourselves here on social media. I am shocked at the things you L O L at. I am worried at the way you speak to and about women.

I am frightened at the kinds of things that inspire and motivate you.

I am concerned that the women who get your attention are not the virtuous, brilliant types but the frivolous party, skimpily clad ones.

I am disappointed to see that the pictures you fall over yourselves double tapping are not the inspirational quotes or of clean, beautiful modest women but of women with their breasts, thighs and bottoms spilling over.

I cringe at how many of you blatantly use swear and curse words at women like it makes you cool.

I am distraught to see that many of you insinuate that a man who loves and stays with one woman is a wimp, that a man who publicly displays and speaks about his love for his woman is a “jew man”, that a man who is more interested in deeply spiritual and intellectual pursuits should be shamed…

I am worried son, deeply worried. My dear son, being uncouth, indecent, unintelligent is NOT cool and contrary to what you think, the man who stays on social media looking for Unclad ladies to validate, smart people to shame, brilliant people to tear down, celebrities to attack are NOT men but little boys battling low self esteem issues.

A real man loves God and is not ashamed to show it. He loves and respects women. He does not ask for nudes and if any misguided woman sends him her nudes respectfully deletes it and not use it as a blackmailing tool. A real man reads, yes, he reads a lot. He picks his mentors wisely, thinks before he speaks and reads his comments over and over before he hits send.

Dear son, do not let the “anonymity” of social media make you a fool rather use it to shine and be kind, reasonable and sensible at all times because that is the man I desire to see you be. Love, Daddy #RMDSaysSo

Thanks for reading, and don't forget we get better by lifting others.

Stay tuned for more inspirational messages and for sure Stay Blessed my dear reader....wish you a great week ahead....

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AN EMOTIONAL LETTER TO YOU......

✍ . ```EMOTIONAL LETTER TO YOU...```

🚏 _TO THE MARRIED..._

Congratulations, I cherish your togetherness.
Meanwhile, remember, love is not about "it's your fault", but all about "I'm sorry". Love is not about "where are you", but all about "I'm right here". Love is not about "how could you", but all about "I understand". Love is not about "I wish you were", but all about "I'm thankful you are."

🚏 _TO THE ENGAGED..._

Congratulations too as you have resolved together to go into this perpetual emotional journey. But remember, the true measure of
compatibility is not the years spent together, but how good you are for each other. Try as much as possible to work it out, it's one of the best feeling in life. It's worth it.

🚏 _TO THE NOT-SO-SINGLE..._

Doing emotional "interview" by having numerous partners in order to pick the most "qualified candidate" does not work most times. Stick with someone your heart and soul yearn for, not the one your eyes search for. Love is not about becoming someone else's "perfect person.", it is about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

🚏 _TO THE "I'M-IN-LOVE"..._

I will say kudos to you too. But remember love sometimes is not all about happiness, but
sacrificing your happiness for someone else's weaknesses. Also have it in mind that it won't be smooth sailing just like the day you both agreed to go into a relationship, so be prepared to make symbiotic sacrifices for that ultimate goal - marriage. Also be warned to reduce online "advertisement" of your "boo", most times it's det

🚏 _TO THE SINGLES...._

Love is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just patiently
wait, it will come to you when you least expected it. Love will give you the best in life and glow your spirit only when you give it to someone who is really worth it and can reciprocate it. So take your time and choose wisely.

🚏 _TO THOSE SEARCHING..._

To my "course-mates" well done. I know you are searching for your soul mate, if I get you right,
that means someone who thinks, behaves, dresses, eats, drinks, sleeps, dances, walks, reads, feels and likes all the same things as you right? Well, it might work in a Nollywood or a Hollywood movie, but in reality it's not possible. And besides, its not a healthy type of relationship, you know why? It will grow out of unresolved insecurities. When your partner's
thoughts, feelings and behaviours mirror your own, you're validated by the illusion of sameness and it's a way of avoiding uncertainty within the relationship. Eventually, when there is a difference of opinion, you feel threatened and invalidated. Before you know it, you will begin to doubt the relationship, and may even think your partner is a fake. Aunty/Brother, don't kill off your relationship by expecting your partner to think, feel and behave the same way you do, instead, celebrate the differences and make yourself open to diversity. When you do that, your relationship can become an exciting journey of growth and self-discovery.

🚏 _TO THE HEARTBROKEN..._

Hmmmmmn. According to my friend, nothing last forever, not even aboki's perfume.
Heartbreaks last as long as you want it, and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge
is not how to survive heartbreaks, but how to learn from them. Though most times, it's difficult to let go, but what will be will be; if you are meant to be together he/she will surely come back, but if not, there's nothing you can do. Move on.

🚏 _TO THE NAIVE..._

Yes. You keep reading love stories, watching love movies and listening to love songs. But know one thing, most of the authors of love
books are either divorced, or having issues with their unions, most of the singers of love songs
are not even in relationships, and most of the actors and actresses in love movies don't even
believe in love because they have either not experienced it or have been "dealt with" in the
past. Therefore don't believe all you read, listen to or watch. Take my simple advice; fall in love
but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to be too demanding, get hurt, but never keep the pain.

🚏 _TO THE POSSESSIVE..._

It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else, but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you. Don't be too attached. Don't give your happiness to your lover, give yourself much joy, your happiness should not be dependent on your partner. The phrases and statements like "She is the joy of my life", "He is the reason why I'm breathing", "Without her I'm worthless", "He is my world" etc are not practical. Nobody can give you a better joy than the one you create for yourself. Nobody is your world, you are your own world. Yes, love increases your happiness,
but the key to your happiness and joy is in your hands. Don't hold love too tight, it might get choked.

🚏 _TO THOSE AFRAID TO PROFESS AND CONFESS LOVE..._

Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel. Tell him/her how you feel, he/she might just be waiting for
you to talk. Nothing stops a woman from approaching the man she loves. The world has gone beyond "rural" emotion. If you love me, tell
me.

🚏 _TO THE CHEATS..._

Behind every untrusting girl is a boy who lied, cheated and broke his promises to her. Behind every untrusting guy is a girl who toiled with his heart. I'm not encouraging infidelity, but don't let us be too quick to judge; if witches were given time to explain why they did what they did, some of them might be right (a proverb in Okene). But one thing the cheats need to know too is that, they are not doing anyone any harm but themselves.

🚏 _TO THOSE CHANGING PARTNERS..._

Sometimes within you, you feel justified by changing partners like clothes just because of
few amendable "sins" that you too cannot even exonerate yourself from, I plead with you to have second thought. You may think you are still young and beautiful, but think about it, if you keep changing courses in a higher institution; sometimes after a year studying a course, sometimes you have spent like 4 semesters, sometimes you are almost through before you "realise" that the course is "boring", tell me, when will you graduate? When will you even master the discipline? Relationships are not meant to be projects, if you are spending all your time repairing, fixing, upgrading and changing, please have a second thought. Besides, you are not getting younger, every minutes of your life counts.

🚏 _TO THOSE AFRAID TO INVEST IN LOVE..._

Just like business, love itself needs investment before it can grow. All the hype about "She no want Designer", "She no want Ferrarri" stuff are pure slogans. The female species that doesn't want money and good things of life left the
surface of the earth around 1340BC, so if any man is looking for females that doesn't want
anything but love will need to consult archeologists. Both males and females are gold diggers, the different is that some of us are heavy diggers, some of us are lazy diggers, some of us are occasional diggers while some of us are simple diggers, but we all dig! Love
without "financial empowerment" no matter how little will shrink with time. So please invest in your partner and you will reap the reward of your investment. Love alone is not enough, add money to it and see a better result.

🚏 _TO ALL MY FRIENDS..._

My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is honest, strong, mature, never-ending, never-changing, ever-upgrading, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish..

This message was sourced from an unknown author. I hope it enlightens you more...thanks...

Don't forget to always share with others......
Warm regards....
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A SAD MEMORY OR A SWEET ONE?

While in the Nigerian Law School, Enugu campus, a girl fell in love with me. I could feel the intensity of her love for me.
I didn't give her much attention, because 'I wasn't (in Enugu) on a pleasure trip, but on a business trip' (study). She loved me and everything I did.

However, I left Enugu upon the completion of my programme. She missed me. We talked several times on phone, but obviously I wasn't ready for marriage. I was a year old at the Bar when she called to tell me that a man was seeking her hand in marriage. She asked if I was there really or should she accept the man's proposal. I told her to go on, because I wasn't ready.

It was never easy for her, tho, but as the only child of her late parents, she grew up with her grandmother and needed to comply with the pressure of settling down quickly. She eventually married the man.

Thereafter, I lost her contact. But, on a certain day, I got a WhatsApp chat from her. She chatted to tell me that she had put to bed a twin. But, one amazing thing she said was that on the kind permission of her husband, she named one of the babies after me (Charles); in remembrance of whom I was to her. She told the husband everything about me and the man accepted her request.

Now, the questions are: what do you leave in people's heart? A sad memory or a sweet one?

If I was bad to her, she wouldn't think of naming her son after me.
I'm not the best, but we must endeavour to leave good memories in whatever we do.

Always do share to inspire others, thanks...

Written By Barr. Charles Dennis

WHY YOUR MAN BEATS YOU?

Barr. Emeka Emmy Ugwuonye, the Founder of the Due Process Advocates (DPA) writes:

WHY YOUR MAN BEATS YOU?

This is the biggest question and one that is impossible to answer. Some will tell you he beats you because of your mouth - you talk too much and that before he could say one, you have said ten. Then he beats you for that. 

What a joke! Have you considered what he will do when you ignore him? Indeed, he will be more offended if you keep quiet when he is talking to you or about you. It means you are ignoring him. It means you are disrespecting him. The beating for that is worse. 

Now, try to walk away when he is angry and you. Then you will know that he doesn't like it for people to walk away while he is talking to them. The beating for that is severe. 

Okay, what do you do? Try to beg him when he is angry. Then you will remember the case of the lady being beaten so badly by her man even though she was saying to him, all the time: "Baby, please!". 

Well, try to complain to your father or even his own parents. Then you will see that he doesn't like it when you take family problems outside the family. 

What am I trying to say? It is not your fault that he beats you. Stop blaming yourself and searching for excuses for him. He is beating you because he is a very bad person and he believes there is no consequence. Once we are able to put him in prison, he will not try that again with his next wife.

SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

By Emeka Ugwuonye, Esquire

In addition, he beats you not because it's your fault, but because he's a coward.

SHE IS HALF OF YOU!

Every religion protects women. Protecting women should just be a religion. And when it's a religion, there's no doubt you'll respect it and protect every woman around you.

Your woman is your companion; your soulmate. She's half of you, and any moment you pierce her heart with abuses, there's no doubt you do same to yourself.

Know it today, that a man who puts smiles in the face of his woman, always do same to himself. But a man who resorts in treating his woman so disdainfully, has, in turn, denied himself her God-given treasures and potentials. For, a woman who's embittered in the heart, can never offer the sweetness she's made of.

A happy wife, no doubt, guarantees a happy home. Because, in reality, women are the souls and controllers of the family. You don't need to neglect this and still hope for peace in your home. Only real men know this. But a man who's just 'manly' will argue this.                                                                                 

Written By Barr. Charles Dennis

WAVES OF LOVE....

These songs don't help
As I feel lost once again
With the silence of the night boring holes in my pained heart again
Somewhere, I wonder if anyone could understand an ounce of my pain
With the cold night in hunger for rain
Wishing it could fall and leave me in shivers 
They said they were survivors
With all sincerity, I am left in doubt
Because the holes made could sustain the whole Africa
I wish it could be much easier with haste,
Then the finality can be related with,
I am here hoping it leaves a good taste,
Because, presently you leave me sorrowful and embittered 
Not for a second you ever meant a word, 
Not that you're loquacious, 
It's just that you faff much more than one could bear,
Now, laying on this poor mattress laid with my pretty -green bedspread, 
I feel your lies weakening the mattress even more,
Trying to tear me up like there's no tomorrow, 
And then I remembered something, 
I'm strong and to survive your heartaches, I have to stay positive...

One pretty teared up night...life is fun, it is a picture of what you imagine.....

 Written by Maureen Kiara Onuoha 

FORGIVENESS

 Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

Mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, instead of allowing anger toward them to eat away at us, is the course of action recommended by most psychologists.

Here are some nice quotes for you and I really do hope they find a way to enlighten your mind on forgiveness.


Alexander Pope Forgiveness Quote:

"To err is human, to forgive, divine."
~ Alexander Pope

"To Forgive" Quote from Lewis B. Smedes:

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. "
~ Lewis B. Smedes

Humorous Forgiveness Quote from an Unknown Author:

"Holding resentment is like eating poison and waiting for the other person to keel over."
~ Unknown

Benjamin Franklin's Wise Saying on Forgiveness and Revenge

"Doing an injury puts you below your enemy; Revenging one makes you but even with him; Forgiving it sets you above him."
~ Benjamin Franklin
Forgiveness and Love Quote from an Unknown Author

"A heart filled with anger has no room for love."
~ Unknown

Henry Ward Beecher Forgive and Forget Quote:

"I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. "
~ Henry Ward Beecher

Harriet Nelson Forgive For Your Own Sake Quote:

"Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself."
~ Harriet Nelson


Robert Muller To Forgive Quote:

"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness."
~ Robert Muller

Paul Boese Forgiveness Quote:

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. "
~ Paul Boese

Forgive and Forget Quote from an Unknown Author:

"To forgive and not to forget is like burying the hatchet with the handle sticking out."
~ Unknown

Cherie Carter-Scott Forgiving Quote:

"Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. "
~ Cherie Carter-Scott

Gerald Jampolsky Forgive and Forget Quote:

"Forgiveness means letting go of the past."
~ Gerald Jampolsky

Louise Hay Forgiving and Healing Quote:

"We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive; but the very fact we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing practice."
~ Louise Hay

Leo Tolstoy Forgiving Quote:

"Let us forgive each other - only then will we live in peace."
~ Leo Tolstoy

Bryant H. McGill Forgiveness and Love Quote:

"There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love."
~ Bryant H. McGill

Josh Billings Forgiveness Quote:

"There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness. "
~ Josh Billings

" The act of forgiving is brave and self-healing ."
Maureen Kiara Onuoha


Have a fruitful, blessed and graceful new week ahead, wishing you all a peace of mind.

Stay tuned for more inspirational messages.

THE COST OF A MIRACLE

An eight year- old girl heard her parents talking about her little brother. She found out that he was sick and they had no money left for a treatment and that only a miracle could save her little brother.

The little girl then went to her bedroom and pulled her piggy bag from its hiding place in the closet. She poured all the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. She slipped out the back door and made her way six blocks away to the local pharmacy. She took some money from her dirty children's bag and placed it on the counter. "And what do you want?" asked the pharmacist. " It's for my little brother," the girl answered back."He's really very sick and I want to buy him a miracle. " "I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist.  
He has something bad growing inside his head and my daddy says only a miracle can save him. So how much does a miracle cost?" "We don't sell miracle here, child. I'm sorry, " the pharmacist said, smiling sadly at the little girl. 

Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I can try and get some more. Just tell me how much it costs."

In the shop was a well dressed customer. He stoopped down and asked the little girl, " What kind of a miracle does your brother need?" I don't know, " she replied wit her eyes welling up. "He is really sick and mommy said he needs an operation. But my daddy can't pay for it, so I have brought my savings.

"How much do you have? " asked the man. "One dollar and eleven cents, she answered barely audibly. " Well, what a coincidence, " smiled the man. This strange customer took the little girl's money in one hand and held her hand in the other and followed her to see her brother and parents. " Let's see if I have the kind of miracle you need." 

That well- dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a renowned neurosurgeon.  The operation was completed without charge and it wasn't long before her little brother, Andrew,   was up on his feet. " That surgery," her mom whispered, was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost." 

The little  girl smiled. She knew exactly how much the miracle had cost....one dollar and eleven cents...plus the faith of a little child.


LESSON; Perseverance can make miracle happen. The little girl persevered. She had the great assertion that her money could buy her a miracle. 

She had great faith in her own beliefs .

Miracles can come in any form. Your miracle can be from someone you least expect. 

THE PURPOSE BEHIND KIARA NUELLZ

I picked up my interest I blogging because I discovered that I needed to share with others my own perspective of how I see life. 

I discovered within me that I do have that knack to share my experiences and garnered wisdom.

I am a girl who loves reading whenever I see the opportunity and so far the books I have read have been able  to create a great impact on my life one way or the other.

And then I saw a better platform which was to blog.

I initially just wanted to blog only on inspiration. I really love the term and that is all I wish to be seen as.

Being inspired gives you more room for

Self-development an improvement. You see things far better and become happier.

Basically, Kiara Nuellz strives to keep leaving you  inspired.

Presently, we live in a society and era that allows us to act otherwise. We have so many of us that lacks self-discipline. 

Our youths have resolved to vices dangerous to wellbeing and future. 
  
Our young girls have lacked self-respect and gone so far a way from good mannerism. 

Wealth has become so paramount and our number one goal regardless of the means of achieving it.

Now, let me cut all stories short and conclude at this sentence. 

I, Kiara Nuellz, isn't here to just blog because of money, rather I am here to strive for a passion that sees, ensures, produces and prepares a better YOU in the NEAREST FUTURE. I am simply here to INSPIRE YOU.