"BE CAREFUL, CAUTIOUS, CONSCIOUS - DISCERNING AND PRAYERFUL"

BE CAREFUL, CAUTIOUS,  CONSCIOUS - DISCERNING AND PRAYERFUL :

My friend, a medical doctor was faced with two difficult choices to make when he was searching for the woman to marry.

The first was a beautiful, educated lady, who came from a very wealthy home. Who was also very ready to put him in a high status.
She loved him beyond words and so much believed in him.

While the other was also an averagely beautiful lady, who was semi-educated, and comes from a poor home, though eager to be educated.
And at 27, she had not known any man.

He had love for the both, but he chose the latter because the percentage of love he had for her was greater. Secondly, due to her humility and zeal to be educated.
Hence, he vowed to put her up educationally. He spent a lot to ensure that she's fully educated, which she eventually acquired.

To him, he made the best choice. Sweetness of love began; marriage celebrated and life has to be faced.
They got two kids within four years of their marriage.

Just eight months after they had their second child, trouble began; regrets and agonies ensued. The woman changed and became a different person. She went haywire. She started comparing her husband with other men, even herself with other women.
She began to disrespect her husband, and comes back late at night, even though she was unemployed.

One night, she came back around 11pm and shunned the husband never to ask her where she was coming from, which led to a fight between them.

Now, the woman declared that she never loved him from the onset, only that she needed a person who could train her in school, and now has paid him back by giving him two kids. She wants out.

What a betrayal! What a heartbreak!

Friends, this is a true life story, and bringing it to the public is not clearly a breach of confidence, since the names of the parties are not included, but to teach us one or two things.

If you fail in marriage, you may have failed in life.
When a marriage is on the brink of collapsing, the parties are never coordinated psychologically and physically. Thus, such condition is not what you want to experience.
It is an ugly wind that blows no-one good, including the offsprings.

Before making your choice of a lifetime partner, you must be Cautious, Conscious, Careful, Discerning and Prayerful - CCC-DP.
Do not just choose because of what you see on the interim, or on the physical, but be able to foresee what may happen in future.

Apparently, my friend in the above scenario was carnally captivated by the humility of the lady, and the fact that she was a virgin at 27. But he failed to look deeply.

As a single, don't be scared or discouraged about marriage, that's why you must learn from people's experiences, and apply what you have learnt in due course. Similarly to the married ones, you have to learn and adjust from the mistakes others made. Marriage is not a bed adorned with only roses.
Don't watch your marriage crumble ooh! Do something. Adjust. Compromise when necessary.

Just say this prayer with me:
O God, give us the grace to discern and make the best choice of life-partner, in Jesus name, Amen!

It may interest you to know that this woman has rented an apartment elsewhere prior to her heartbreaking declaration.
Who financed it, since she's unemployed?

As a married woman, you must be careful with the kind of people you associate with. Stop comparing your husband with other men. All fingers are not equal.
If you're a good "helper", why not work together with him, so that he will attain that status you want him to?
Why did you allow yourself to be lured and deceived by these society women? A case of bad influence, I suppose.
Why should they influence the destruction of your marriage?
Why do you want to pay this man so badly like this?

The acronym, CCC-DP may apply.

Charles C. Dennis