WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING

WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING
Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.
There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming, Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked, He looked at me asking how dare I call him that, Immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy, I called him all sort of name. Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.
My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father? Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum!
Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favorite food, yes you know he loves Pounded yam & Vegetable soup right? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.
There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Yusuf, never liked me. But your father was always supportive until his perception changed.
There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks. When the table was set and food was served. Everyone started eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt in the food. I was embarrassed. Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body. He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt. After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying.
Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her!
Now let me talk to you about Sex. You see Sex is a wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need Sex more than you do. There were days, I needed Sex more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you. Don’t always think of your self.
There was a time things were hard and I needed to do two jobs to support your father. One night I was so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he need me. When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understand me better. He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.
My son, Sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are physically and mentally ready for it. Sometimes, read your wife and understand her.
Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. Beside your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful. Use wisdom.
I know you love mummy… I know you tell me all your problems. But now things will be different.
Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me.
When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately. Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it. Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself.
Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with your wife every month!
I know you will have a happy home. You will always be mummy’s boy. God will bless your home.                                                                          Please  don't forget God, pray and seek His assistance always..
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RELATIONSHIP MATTERS

No matter how your woman may have annoyed you, do not run away from your responsibility to care for her.

A man, who admires the beauties of other women, should try to make his own woman look like them, or even better. However, no woman should be so dependant on her man.

A real man eliminates all the doubts of future on his woman's mind and reassures her that soon everything will be alright. But only a real woman will easily understand and believe.

A real man controls the temperaments of his woman by explaining more, not by arguing more.

Charles Dennis, Esq.

Daily Tip ; Keeping you ever youthful

The happiest people 
don't have the best of everything. 
They just make 
the best of everything.
Live simply. 
Love generously. 
Care deeply. 
Speak kindly

Signs of Aging...

Signs of aging -
Written by a confident lady ....

After a meeting, I was coming out of a hotel and I was looking for my car keys. They were not in my pockets. A quick search in the meeting room, it wasn't there too.

Suddenly I realized I must have left them in the car.

My husband has shouted many times for leaving the keys in the ignition.

My theory is the ignition is the best place not to lose them .......
His theory is the car will be stolen if left at the ignition key slot !

Immediately, I rushed to the parking lot and came to a terrifying conclusion .....
His theory was right. The parking lot was empty 😱😞😞.

I immediately called the police. I gave them my location, description of the car, place I parked, etc. I equally confessed that I had left my keys in the car, and that the car had been stolen.

Then I made the most difficult call of all, to my husband, 
"Honey (I stammered ; I always call him 'honey' in times like these ) , I left my keys in the car .... and it has been stolen."

There was a big silence. I thought the call had been dropped, but then I heard his voice.
"Idiot", he shouted, "I dropped you at the hotel !"

Now it was my time to be silent. Embarrassed, and happy as well, I said, "Well, then pls come and get me."

He shouted again, "I will, as soon as I convince this policeman, that I have not stolen your car."

Don't laugh alone....

MARRIAGE TIPS FROM CHARLES DENNIS, Esq

There's nothing better than waiting a little longer to marry the right person, than being quickly taken by the wrong person.

Marriage ought to be an everlasting crown, and no-one wishes to be dethroned along the line.

Marriage is the sweetest engagement, though not devoid of its peculiar bitterness, but no-one wishes to be embittered forever.

Do not take the one kept for another, and do not also foolishly abandon yours for another on flimsy reason(s).

When the right person comes or proposes, your inner heart won't fail in signaling you.

Take the beauties of the heart first before considering those of the body. Because the beauties of the body might be regretted in the long run.

Do not be enchanted by only what you see, but mainly what you feel.
There's no human with all the qualities, not even you.

Good morning, friends!

Charles Dennis, Esq.

Things to remember as you go through life....

Remember the following as you go through life.

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.

To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.

Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

3. Life is short.
When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.

Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.

One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags !

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither  would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether  you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years , but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch !

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

CREATE YOUR OWN FUTURE

"The very best way to predict the future is to create it." - Peter Drucker 

To get the most or the best out of life is to decide now to prepare and create your own future. What you want and you constantly think of, you equally attract.

Everyday comes with its own opportunity and you have to make good use of it. Make use of the opportunity to achieve your dreams and goals. Start with the little you have. Most wealthy individuals in the world started from very humble beginnings. 

Decide today to be active and not passive. Take charge of your own life today and accept total responsibility of your own life. Dare yourself to make forward steps and face the risk that comes unexpectedly. 

Take this very day as an ample opportunity and start creating your own future.

WHEN TO BE SILENT

WHEN TO BE SILENT . . . 

The Bible
1. Be silent In the heat of
anger - 
(Prov 14:17)
2. Be silent When you don't
have all the facts - 
(Prov 18:13)
3. Be silent When you
haven't verified the story - 
(Deut 17:6)
4. Be silent If your words 
will offend a weaker 
person - 
(1 Cor 8:11)
5. Be silent When it is time 
to listen - 
(Prov 13:1)
6. Be silent When you are 
tempted to make light of 
holy things - 
(Eccl 5:2)
7. Be silent When you are 
tempted to joke about 
sin - 
(Prov 14:9)
8. Be silent If you would be 
ashamed of your words 
later - 
(Prov 8:8
9. Be silent If your words 
would convey the wrong 
impression - 
(Prov 17:27)
10. Be silent If the issue is 
none of your business - 
(Prov 14:10)
11. Be silent When you are 
tempted to tell an 
outright lie - 
(Prov 4:24)
12. Be silent If your words 
will damage someone 
else's reputation - 
(Pro 16:27)
13. Be silent If your words 
will damage a friendship -
 (Prov 16:28)
14. Be silent When you are 
feeling critical - 
(James 3:9)
15. Be silent If you can't say 
it without screaming it - 
(Prov 25:28)
16. Be silent If your words 
will be a poor reflection of the Lord or your friends and family - (1 Pt 2:21-23)
17. Be silent If you may 
have to eat your words 
later -
 (Prov 18:21)
18. Be silent If you have 
already said it more than one time - 
(Prov 19:13)
19. Be silent When you are 
tempted to flatter a 
wicked person -
 (Prov 24:24)
20. Be silent When you are 
supposed to be working 
instead - 
(Prov 14:23)

"WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES" - 
(Prov 21:23).
"BE STILL, AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD"
 (Ps 46:10)

What lessons do you obtain from whatching this short video??

INSPIRATION FROM MICHAEL JORDAN

Michael Jordan was born in 1963, in the slums of Brooklyn, New York.

He had four  siblings and his father's earnings were not sufficient to provide for the whole family.

He grew up in a poor neighbourhood. Exposed to mindless violence and heavy discrimination in the slums, he saw for himself only a hopeless future.

His father saw in Michael, a lost soul and decided to do something.

He gave Michael, who was 13 years old, a piece of used clothing and asked: "What do you think the value of this outfit would be?"

Jordan replied,"Maybe one dollar."

His father asked, "Can you sell it for two dollars? If you can sell it, it would mean that you are a big help to your family."

Jordan nodded his head, "I'll try, but no guarantee that I'll be successful."

Jordan carefully washed the cloth clean. Because they didn't have an iron, to smoothen the cloth, he levelled it with a clothes brush on a flat board, then kept it in the sun to dry. The next day, he brought the clothes to a crowded underground station. After offering it for more than six hours. Jordan finally managed to sell it for $2. He took the two dollar bill and ran home.

After that, everyday he looked for used clothing, washed and ironed it, and sold it in the crowd.

More than ten days later, his father again gave him a piece of used clothing, "Can you think of a way you can sell this for 20 bucks?"

Aghast, Jordan said, "How is it possible? This outfit can only fetch two dollars at the most."

His father replied, "Why don't you try it first? There might be a way."

After breaking his head for a few hours, finally, Jordan got an idea.

He asked for cousin's helpto paint a picture of Donald Duck and Mickey Mouse on the garment. Then he tried to sell it in the school where the children of the rich study.

Soon a housekeeper, who was there to pick his master, bought that outfit for his master. The master was a little boy of only 10 years. He loved it so much and he gave a five dollar tip. 25 dollars was a huge amount for Jordan, the equivalent of a month's salary of his father.

When he got home, his father gave him yet another piece of used clothing, "Are you able to resell it at a price of 200 dollars?" Jordan's eyes lit up.

This time, Jordan accepted the clothes without the slightest doubt. Two months later a popular movie actress from the movie "Charlie's Angels", Farah Fawcett came to New York for her Movie promos. After the press conference, Jordan made his way through the security forces to reach the side of Farah Fawcett and requested her autograph on the piece of clothing. When Fawcett saw this innocent child asking for her autograph, she gladly signed it.

Jordan was shouting very excitedly, "This is a jersey signed by Miss Farah Fawcett, the selling price is 200 dollars!" He auctioned off the clothes, to a businessman for a price of 1,200 dollars!

Upon returning home, his father broke into TEARS and said, "I am amazed that you did it My child! You're really great! "

That night, Jordan slept alongside his father. His father said, "Son, in your experience selling these three pieces of clothing, what did you learn about success?"

Jordan replied, "Where there's a will, there's a way."

His father nodded his head, then shook his head, "What you say is not entirely wrong! But that was not my intention. I just wanted to show you that a piece of used clothing which is worth only a dollar can also be increased in value, Then how about us - living & thinking humans? We may be darker and poorer, but what if we CAN increase our VALUE."

This thought enlightened young Jordan. Even a piece of used clothing could be made dignified, then why not me? There is absolutely no reason to underestimate myself.

From then on, Michael Jordan felt that his future would be beautiful and full of hope.

He went on to become the greatest basketball player of all times.

How can I increase my own value?                                                           I am finding it a very interesting thought. I am sure, you too, will --culled from ICC.

GOOD MORNING TO YOU...

Interesting meaning of 'good morning' 
( We all say Good Morning to others. Do you know the meaning of "GOOD MORNING" ?     

G   Get up.
O   Open your heart.
O   Open your mind.
D   Dedicate your day to God.

M   Meditate on Gods word.
O    Optimise your faith & hope.
R    Rebuke all evils.
N    Never doubt Gods love.
I      Inspire someone
N    Nothing should scare you .
G     Go out with joy.  

So, I say GOOD.  MORNING!

30 BEST QUOTES OF MUHAMMAD ALI , THE PEOPLE'S CHAMPION..

1. "Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. His hands can't hit what his eyes can't see. Now you see me, now you don't. George thinks he will, but I know he won't.

2. "Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth."

3. "I'm young; I'm handsome; I'm fast. I can't possibly be beat."

4. "Don’t count the days; make the days count."

5. “If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it—then I can achieve it." 

6. “It's hard to be humble when you're as great as I am."

7. “It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.”

8. “If you even dream of beating me you'd better wake up and apologize.”

9. “Braggin' is when a person says something and can’t do it. I do what I say.”

10. "I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was."

11. "Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even."

12. "I'm so mean, I make medicine sick."

13. "I should be a postage stamp. That's the only way I'll ever get licked."

14. “Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.”

15. “He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.”

16. "A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”

17. “If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.”

18. "I shook up the world. Me! Whee!"

19. “I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'”

20. “At home I am a nice guy: but I don’t want the world to know. Humble people, I’ve found, don’t get very far.”

21. "A man who has no imagination has no wings."

22. "He’s (Sonny Liston) too ugly to be the world champ. The world champ should be pretty like me!"

23. "I am the astronaut of boxing. Joe Louis and Dempsey were just jet pilots. I'm in a world of my own."

24. “I’ve wrestled with alligators. I’ve tussled with a whale. I done handcuffed lightning. And throw thunder in jail.”

25. "Hating people because of their color is wrong. And it doesn't matter which color does the hating. It's just plain wrong."

26. “It’s not bragging if you can back it up.”

27. "I'm the most recognized and loved man that ever lived cuz there weren't no satellites when Jesus and Moses were around, so people far away in the villages didn't know about them."

28. "It's just a job. Grass grows, birds fly, waves pound the sand. I beat people up."

29. “I’m not the greatest, I’m the double greatest.”

30. “Live everyday as if it were your last because someday you're going to be right.”

MORNING WISDOM; "GIVE IT TIME."

GIVE IT TIME...

When someone comes and tells you, I can't sleep without you, I love you the way you are and I can put up with your good and bad attitude. Before you commit your heart please GIVE IT TIME.

When You just met someone today and feel like marrying him/her tomorrow, before you do remember you needed to GIVE IT TIME

When you visit your uncle and you will stay there for 2months
holidays, don't be carried away that they serve you your preferred food and give you hot water to bath during your first two days and you start making arrangement to relocate to their house, First GIVE IT TIME.

When a brother visits you and wakes you up by his shouting of prayer from 12am to 6am, please don't shut him down, first GIVE IT TIME.

When a bro joins your fellowship in First year and he is in every group/wing, please don't rush and make him a leader rather GIVE IT TIME.

When you enter a new environment and everybody worship you and eat your mess don't be carried away just GIVE IT TIME.

When someone comes with a new business with unbelievable
promises, please before you involve your money, first GIVE IT TIME.

When you see a new church in town and you hear their waves, before you conclude about how hot they are first GIVE IT TIME.

Finally when you are in a cross road of decisions, you don't know what to do, ask the people or person involved to please give you time.

The wise priest in the Bible in Acts told them to leave Peter and John...Rather, give them time.
You can be good in giving people tests and trying out who they are...some people know how to pass them all but the test of time they fail.

Time tests Love and proves it.
Time tests businesses and authenticates it. Time tests spirituality and reveals it.
Time, a good tester.

Don't say that NEPA in your area is now the best until you have GIVEN IT TIME. Lols

Your Uncle or Father told You that you are useless and worthless and can't amount to anything, just laugh it away and ask them to GIVE YOU TIME.

Quote me... Consistency with time is the true test of Efficiency.

Time is a tester
Time is an AUTHENTICATOR
Time is a REVEALER
TIME IS STILL A MATTER
Thanks for giving this long post a TIME.

May your day be blessed and inspired!

MORNING WISDOM

A RABBIT runs, jumps, moves faster and lives for only fifteen (15) years while 
A TORTOISE doesn't even attempt any of such activities but lives for 150 years or more?

LESSON: Life is not about rushing, comparism and doing what others are doing but rather keep calm and do what is right and what you are called to do. They may live in the same forest with the same color and play together but we must remember that we will have age mate, class mate, school mate, office mates but there is no 'DESTINY MATE' in this life.
Be who you are called to be,
love who you are and thank God for your special journey which may not look like others!!
This is the simplest way to succeed in life!!
God Bless you, and keep looking forward  because  those beside you are not going where you are exactly going. 

Be a source of inspiration to someone today...
Have a great Morning !! 

A Message of Common Sense For Nigerians By Drake Oghenedoh

What makes us all different is our level of reasoning and mentality Americans are recognised as one of the most wayward persons but yet they control 70% of the entire world's power and wealth.

 Common sense can never be common and it can't be gotten on the streets, those who have it have spent millions getting it, where a person like Bill Gates common sense rates like 60% I bet you Dangote is still on his way. 

Common sense is not common and can never be

Some persons will and must have it more based on how far they go to search for it.

My message to you today is to seek knowledge with all your heart, money, body and soul because that's the only way we can get ourselves(Nigerians) from this mess.

Faith without work is Dead and work as a term I bet you connotes more than a million things.

Stop working and having dreams of having a good wife or God-fearing,money-bag,slavish,deaf (to your abusive tongues)and a dumb man for a husband.

Let's stand work and protect our country Nigeria..let's stamp out the virus in our midst and tell the world that we are not dummies.....I love my country NIGERIA....GOOD PEOPLE GREAT NATION

A write-up by Drake Oghenedoh

35 THINGS LADIES WANT!

Agunwa Oluchi wrote:

35 THINGS LADIES WANT

1. When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
2. When she pushes you or hits you like a dummy because she thinks she's stronger than you, grab her and don't let go.
3. When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough, kiss her and tell her you love her.
4. When she's quiet, ask her what's wrong.
5. When she ignores you, give her your attention.
6. When she pulls away, pull her back.
7. When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
8. When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
9. When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
10. When she's scared, protect her.
11. When she steals your favorite cap, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
12. When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
13. When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
14. When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up.
15. When she says she loves you, she really does more than  you can understand.
16. When she grabs at your hands, hold her's and play with her fingers.
17. When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
18. When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
19. Trust her.
20. When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she does.
21. When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
22. When she shares this post, she wants you to read it.
23. Stay on the phone with her, even if she's not saying anything.
24. When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
25. When she says she's okay, don't believe it. Talk with her because ten years later, she'll remember you.
26. Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
27. Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
28. Stay up with her all night when she's sick.
29. Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show, even if you think it's stupid.
30. Give her your world.
31. Let her wear your clothes.
32. When she's bored and sad, hang out with her.
33. Let her know she's important.
34. Don't talk about other girls around her.
35. Kiss her in the pouring rain.

YEAH! I know such guys are hard to
find... But one may just be in this forum with you.

A REAL MAN SHOULD BE SENSITIVE TO EVERY WOMAN'S STRESS

Sometime ago, while my elder sister was driving, her tyre suddenly deflated, and she had no spare one with her, she then pulled-over and was thinking of what to do. Many vehicles passed without offering to help, even though her hazard light was beaming, then came a young man, who pulled-over too and gave her his own spare tyre. Not only that he offered his spare tyre, he changed the tyre by himself.

This young man did not know my sister before, he only understood how gentlemanly and nice it is to help a woman who is in stress.

After fixing my sister's car, he took her phone number and the next morning, he personally traced her residence to retrieve his tyre. He didn't wait for her to return it by herself. He came by himself.

After a little while, he invited my sister and her entire family to his wedding ceremony, and there, my sister praised his wife for marrying the best man who could understand when a woman is in stress.

The questions are:
How do you treat women on your way?
Can you stop to help, just like the gentleman in the above scenario did?
Or, would you help and seek to be repaid in kind? What kind of man are you to a woman?

And as a woman, do you ignore people when they wanna help you?
Do you always have the negative thought that he's offering to help because he needs something from you? No! You don't have to, because every man cannot be the same. There are still good people around.

I was driving the other day, and I saw two ladies who were trying to cross the road, but couldn't because no motorist could slow down for them to cross and there was no nearby pedestrian bridge to use. I slowed down and signaled the other motorists to do same, and behold the driver behind me overtook me immediately and berated me for slowing down for women. He called me one funny name I wouldn't wanna mention here. But, thank God for making others understand and wait for the ladies to cross.

See, you don't have to be gentle to your wife or girlfriend alone. You should exhibit that real-manliness to every woman on your way. You must epitomize love and care, and show it to everyone.

From the manner at which you treat some women on your way, then the way you treat your wife or girlfriend could be rated.

Similarly, sometime ago, as I was driving along Mabushi expressway in Abuja, I saw an elderly man who pulled-over to offer a gallon of water to a woman who's car engine was overheating. I watched him through my side mirror as he hopped-in immediately and zoomed off. Apparently he did not even know that woman from Adam, but was only being a 'real' man.

Maybe, we will learn one or two things from this.

Charles Dennis, Esq.

ENCOURAGE YOUR MAN TO ORGANIZE YOUR WEDDING WITH THE AVAILABLE RESOURCES.

Eby Amanda Pius-Urum writes:

"Dear potential hubby, 
On our wedding day. I will gladly and proudly wear the wedding gown that will be made by me. I will glow like the morning sun and I will watch you smile from ear to ear while we walk down the aisle.

Before then, our wedding guests will just be 28 plus me and you, that's 30. You have 14 slot while I have 14 too. I want to remind you that there will be no community wedding. For the fear of plastic coolers is the beginning of comfort."

Eby Amanda.

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Therefore, every prospective marriage partners must cut their clothes according to their sizes.

Don't force your man to spend more than he budgeted. Do not emulate the classy wedding ceremonies you see on your TV screen, or, from the politicians and celebrities. Encourage him by planning with him with the little he has. Your wedding reception must not be in Sheraton hotels or Transcorp Hilton hotels. You can organize a beautiful and wonderful wedding ceremony with just a little resources.

Sometimes you realize that most men who married their wives when it was hard, respect their wives most. Though some are so carried away that they later forget the hard days.

A man I met two weeks ago told me that three years ago, he organized his marriage ceremony with only N180,000 in his bank account. But today, he can boast of 2 residential buildings in this city of Abuja, 3 cars and some other money yielding investments.
He told me how his wife managed the N180,000 for the wedding, because he actually explained everything to her and she understood, because of the LIGHT she saw in him.

Now, how many women want to marry such man; a half-made man; a yet-to-be-blossomed man?

How many can see Light in their men? How many can see future?
How many will believe in their men, even at this odd time?

Have you been waiting for the President's son to come seek your hands in marriage?
Are you on a high horse and can't come down?
Have you lost your real husband due to your wishes and desires for a perfect and an already made man?

It is more honourable to joyfully and peaceful enjoy the golds you mined with your man, than to apprehensively sit on the one already beautified before your emergence. Sometimes, you don't have the right or convenience to talk, because, you didn't contribute anything.
However, only a foolish man will treat his wife disdainfully just because he already made the money before she came.

Love your partner because of the future you have foreseen in him, not just for what you see now.
Be committed because you love him. Give the fullness of the required time, because you so much believe in him.

Both of you should join hands to make reality out of the little you have.

Yes, no-one will have sugar in his or her mouth and spit it out, unless he/she is diabetic. But you shouldn't abandon the one in your life because of the little he has now. You must foresee and discern his future, then take a good stand.

Charles Dennis, Esq.

BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER

My friend is a medical doctor and works with National Hospital, Abuja. He's in love with a waitress in Obitex wine shop on my street. He sought my advice on whether a highly educated man like him can stoop so low to marry a woman who's barely educated; a woman who merely serve drinks in a street bar.

He told me how he loves her and can kill for her.
He said that no woman has found a place in his heart like her. And that she's the best he can choose.

I'm also a witness to this girl's humility and homeliness. I could remember one day, when her madam confessed that she will miss her diligence in her duties, if she someday leaves for another place.

I asked my friend why he had to choose her, "but for her diligence in her duties, I am enchanted, Charles" "This girl smiles, even when it is obvious she's tired ", he also replied.

He has proposed marriage to her, but the lady is still confused, because in some of her questions, she asked: "Doctor, what did you really see in me?" "Why not look for a woman of your level?" Why did you choose an illiterate like me?"

Oh, my God!

May I reveal that my friend will be introducing himself to the girl's family by next month.

Oh, gush! What love could do? And he told me that he has planned to train her to any level of education she wishes.

Oh, have you reasoned this and realize that a times love has a different gift for you?
Are you so educated and have been thinking of marrying an educated person too?
Are you from a rich home and have also desired to settled down with a person from a very affluent background?

Sometimes in life we anticipate a particular lifestyle; we want our lives to replicate that of the mightiest. Sometimes we wanna dance and dine with the most influential in the society, but unknown to us that life begets the contrary for us. Perhaps, the best for our souls and living; a partner you will forever feel at rest with.

I have seen where a PhD holder married a school dropout, and later brought her to limelight.
I have seen a king marry his house-help. Just because of her humility.
I have seen the rich marry, dine and wine with the poor.
I have seen a princess condescend to marry a local boy. This is not a fairytale. It's a reality. It can happen to anybody.

What about you?
Love is unfathomable.
Love sees from afar, and can see from the eyes of the rich or educated to those of the poor or illiterate.

What matters most is the love and compatibility.
What matters most is what both of you feel for each other, not your educational status, not even your financial or societal levels.
What matters are the qualities you see in the person.

Friends, do you have a woman or man who has taken your breath away?
Do you feel love for that lady or man who is not even educated; who is not even your level in everything; who's just a street girl?
Could you see beauty and humility in the eyes of that lady on the subway of your street? Have you fallen in love with that waitress in a local bar?
Why not go for her or him?
Why not pitch your tent where it would be most comfortable for you?
Why not reciprocate the love of the one who loves you more, and leave that which seems too hard to reach?

Love does not remember or consider one's societal status when it dominates the heart of a man.
A times love makes its custodians look foolish, though they are very wise.

Sometimes love has to see clearly; love has to choose the one most available for it; love has to marry a pauper, not crazily the most handsome or the most beautiful, or, the richest.

I have reasoned this and realize that a times we force ourselves the beauties that never needed us.

Beauty, they say, lies in the eyes of the beholder.
The woman I found beautiful, may remain ugly to you forever, but it doesn't matter, so far I really love her from the depth of my heart.

I have advised my friend to follow his heart. I told him to stick to his feelings.
Love is the best and sweetest feelings to behold.
Love is the hardest addiction to quit.
Love is a feeling you can't reject or hide.

Just go for your heart, and you would be fine.

The question is:
Do you need an understanding and understandable half-educated lifetime partner, who loves and cares, or, a very educated rich one who does not care whether you lives?

Remember, that the choice of a lifetime partner is the most critical choice everybody must make.

Look inside the heart, not the beauties of the body.

Written by Charles Dennis, Esq.

YOU MAY LEARN FROM THIS; WORDS ARE POWERFUL

You May Learn From This.

WORDS ARE POWERFUL
By Edith Ijeoma Fredrick.

This story was shared by the Ex-Indian President Dr. Abdul Kalam. He said: "When I was a kid, my mom cooked food for us. One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day's work, Mom placed a plate of 'subzi' and extremely burn roti in front of my Dad. I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But dad just ate his roti asked me how was my day at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burnt roti."

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night and I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms and said:  “Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides? A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO...!" 

Words are powerful. They have the power to heal or wound. Words have the power to build or destroy. Words can bring hope and words can bring defeat. So, think about the words that you will utter in the course of the week. Are they words that will empower others or are they words that will discourage and de-motivate people?

Before you speak: THINK
T: is it TRUE?
H: is it HELPFUL?
I: Is it INSPIRING?
N: is it NECESSARY?
K: is it KIND?